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How to Get Rid of Fear

How to Get Rid of Fear

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Have you noticed how easy it is for all kinds of fear to coexist in your heart? You may, for instance, feel fearful for your children, your spouse, your friends, your finances, your future, and your health. You may be afraid of public speaking and taking tests and flying in planes and crossing bridges. When left unchallenged, fear can spread like a contagion inside us. Or maybe fear is something like a great big magnet, attracting more and more fear to our lives. If this is so, how can we neutralize its power?

Perhaps the only way to do this is to replace our fears with what I call a capital F kind of fear. I am thinking, of course, about what Scripture calls the “Fear of the Lord.” But doesn’t associating the word fear with the word Lord end up ramping up our fears, reviving all the old stereotypes about a wrathful God who is always angry? Not if we understand the term rightly. Scripture links fear of the Lord to many good things: wisdom, safety, long life, prosperity, and a sure foundation. Fear of the Lord can protect you from evil, death, bitterness, and ruin.

To fear the Lord is to revere him, to stand in awe of him, so much so that your primary aim is to please him above pleasing yourself or others. Like a young girl who feels secure while walking alongside her father, you heed his voice because you know that doing so will keep you from straying too close to the edge of a cliff or wandering off in the company of a stranger. You know that your heavenly Father has your best interests at heart. Fearing God produces a kind of foundational security, reducing and reordering the lesser fears that threaten you.

Scripture tells us that the fear of the Lord is a “life-giving fountain,” the beginning of wisdom, and the door to friendship with God. By fearing God, we reduce the other fears that plague us, avoiding evil and courting blessing.

Confession as a Stress Reliever

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If you want to experience more of God’s peace, try doing exactly what James tells you: “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed” (James 5:16, nlt). Make it a practice to confess your sins not only to God but to a mature brother or sister in Christ. Confessing our sins to “someone with skin on” sounds like a recipe for creating more anxiety rather than more peace. You may wonder, What will people think of me? Won’t it make me feel worse about myself? Contrary to what you may think, such a practice can be a tremendous step toward healing and a real stress reliever. Let me illustrate.

In his book Rumors of Another World, Philip Yancey tells the story of hearing author Keith Miller talk about his struggle to face the weakness and sin in his life. Determined to do so, he hit upon a plan, deciding to contact a Catholic priest who lived five hundred miles away in order to ask if he would hear his confession. It must have sounded like an odd request, coming as it did from a Protestant, but the priest agreed. As Miller prepared to meet with the priest, he made a list of everyone he had wronged and every character flaw and defect he could think of. When it came time to confess, he looked down at his list and read them to the priest out loud. Fearing to look up, he then held his head in his hands, awaiting a response. But as Yancey recounts, there was only silence. “Miller,” he says, “kept expecting the blow to fall. Nothing. When he forced himself to raise his head, he saw that the priest was crying. ‘My God, Keith,’ he said, ‘that’s my list too.’ A path opened toward healing.”1

Perhaps in that moment, both men received healing, experiencing God’s gracious presence as they spoke together honestly, openly, and with faith. Ask God today to show you whom you can confide in, and then make the request. Examine your conscience with the help of God’s Spirit, and then do what James instructs: confess your sins and pray so that you may be healed.

 

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  1. Philip Yancey, Rumors of Another World: What on Earth Are We Missing? (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2003), 150.

The Secret to Becoming Calm

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Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful.
1 Peter 3:3-5

I confess that this has never been my favorite Bible passage. But I have come to realize there is something appealing about people, male or female, who are gentle and quiet at the core of their being. Such people have the ability to spread a sense of calm wherever they go.

The Amish have a reputation for being a peaceable people. Have you ever wondered what their secret is? One of their secrets to peace concerns a foundational value they call gelassenheit. Though it has no direct English equivalent, gelassenheit can best be understood, explains an Anabaptist minister by the name of Durand Overholtzer, through synonyms like “yieldedness, humility, calmness, composure, meekness, aplomb, tranquility, imperturbability, serenity, poise, sedateness, letting go, the opposite of self-assertion, a gentle spirit, submitting to God’s will.” Gelassenheit, he says, “is the union and agreement of the inner spirit with the outward response.”1

While many of us are attracted to ideals of calmness, composure, poise, and tranquility, we are not so eager to embrace ideals like yieldedness, humility, meekness, and gentleness. But what if the second set is vital to developing the first, much like physical training is vital to becoming a successful athlete? Or what if the second set is like the thread that forms the pattern on a quilt, making it uniquely beautiful? Join me today in praying that God will thread his character onto the quilt that is your life, making you a person of greater peace and deeper calm.

 

  1. Quoted in Suzanne Woods Fisher, Amish Peace (Grand Rapids, MI: Revell, 2009), 108.

 

 

Unshakeable Contentment

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Journalist Annia Ciezadlo has covered wars in Lebanon and Iraq. Her memoir, Day of Honey, offers an unusual take on what it’s like to live in the midst of a Middle Eastern war zone. Annia explains that whenever she travels, she also cooks “because eating has always been my most reliable way of understanding the world.”1

“We all,” she says, “carry maps of the world in our heads. Mine, if you could see it, would resemble a gigantic dinner table, full of dishes from every place I’ve been.”2 The title of her fascinating book is drawn from an Arabic phrase, youm aasl, youm basl, meaning “day of onion, day of honey.” The point of this rhyming Arabic phrase is that some days will be bad and others will be good. People use it to comfort each other, as though to say that a better day will come.

Our lives are also filled with days of honey and days of onion, times when life is sweet and when it’s anything but. Can we enjoy God’s peace in both good days and bad? Paul seems to say that the answer is yes. One translation of his words to the Philippians says, “I have learned the secret of being content” (niv).

I confess that I have yet to learn the unshakable contentment Paul speaks of. A day of onion can still transform my peace into discord. If you’re more like me than the great apostle Paul, join me today in praying for the grace to become content in any and all circumstances.

 

  1. Annia Ciezadlo, Day of Honey (New York: Free Press, 2011), 8.
  2. Ibid., 7.

 

 

The Best Way to Discover God’s Will

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Nowhere in the Bible does God lay down a complete blueprint for anyone’s life. He didn’t take Abraham aside, for instance, and tell him,

“I want you to marry your half-sister Sarah, and then the two of you will move to a land that will someday be called Israel, but a famine will cause you to move to Egypt, and then you will bring back a slave girl by the name of Hagar who will bear you a son and there will be great strife in your household because of arguments between Sarah and Hagar and their children, and then I will ask you to sacrifice Isaac and to turn Ishmael out into the wilderness, and then you will acquire great riches, and then Sarah will die and you will remarry, and finally you will live to a ripe old age and three great religions will trace their beliefs to you.”

True, God did disclose some things to Abraham over a period of time, but there was much that Abraham simply didn’t know about how life would unfold.

Surprisingly, the Bible doesn’t offer a lot of guidance about our future, though it does offer considerable guidance about how we should conduct ourselves in the present. One thing Abraham did know was what God wanted him to do in the present, and, to his credit, he did it. To seek to know the future in detail would be like a first-year algebra student demanding to move straight from solving two-step equations to partial-fraction decomposition.

It just won’t work.

As Jerry Sittser points out, God has a plan for our lives. But he doesn’t disclose it to us too far in advance:

“We will discover that plan, however, by simply doing the will of God we already know in the present moment. Life will then gradually unfold for us. We will discover at just the right time what we need to know and do. . . . We will discern God’s will as naturally as we learned how to walk—one step at a time.”1

  1. Jerry Sittser, The Will of God as a Way of Life (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2004), 39-40.

When You Don’t Feel Peaceful

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God’s peace has many facets to it. To grow in that peace is to grow into the likeness of the one we call the Prince of Peace. Since shalom contains the ideas of wholeness, well-being, serenity, healing, safety, satisfaction, and even prosperity, God’s peace is something rich and deep that he works into our lives as we grow in greater maturity.

Like joy, peace is not something we merely feel but something that comes to characterize our lives regardless of circumstances. There will be times when we feel our lack of it acutely even though we are attempting to follow God faithfully. Seasons of difficulty will arise. Trials and tragedies will assail us. Such times may temporarily rob us of the sense that God is with us, making us vulnerable to fear. At these times, it may help to remember the things that lead to peace. I’m referring to things like

  • confessing our sin
  • forgiving others
  • obeying God
  • expressing gratitude
  • finding fellowship
  • praising God
  • resting
  • exercising
  • praying daily
  • reading and studying Scripture

Think of these as pearls on a string that together will make a beautiful necklace. While we wait for God’s peace to adorn our lives, we can actively address any areas that may need shoring up, trusting that as we do, God will help us to grow in faith and trust.

 

 

Our Dangerous Tongues

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How would you like it if someone called you a motzi shem ra? Huh? You might wonder if you had just been complimented or insulted. In fact, the phrase identifies you as the lowest of the low—someone who lies in order to give others a bad name. Jesus likely used this phrase when he said, “Blessed are you when people hate you, when they exclude you and insult you and reject your name as evil” (Luke 6:22, niv).

Over the centuries, the Jewish people learned through painful experience how dangerous the tongue can be. Think of the pogroms that have been carried out against the Jews, often fueled by outrageous lies. So dangerous is the tongue, the rabbis say, that God designed it to be kept behind two protective walls—the lips and the teeth. Here are a few commonly cited examples of speech that may seem normal to us but that are forbidden to observant Jews:

Don’t call a person by a derogatory nickname, or by any other embarrassing name, even if the person is used to it.

Don’t ask an uneducated person for an opinion on a scholarly matter (because it would draw attention to the person’s lack of knowledge or education).

Don’t refer someone to another person for assistance when you know the other person can’t help (in other words, don’t give someone the runaround).

Don’t deceive anyone, even if doing so does no harm.

Don’t compliment people if you don’t mean it.1

Clearly, the rabbis have thought a lot about this issue. One way to combat the negative power of our tongues is to cultivate the discipline of silence. Dietrich Bonhoeffer recommended silence at the beginning and end of each day. Conscious and prayerful silence can open a space into which God may speak, giving him the first and the last word. Silence can also be a powerful tool against temptation. As Bonhoeffer pointed out, “Often we combat our evil thoughts most effectively if we absolutely refuse to allow them to be expressed in words.”2

  1. Adapted from Tracey R. Rich, “Speech and Lashon Ha-Ra,” Judaism 101, accessed June 29, 2017, http://www.jewfaq.org/speech.htm.
  2. Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Life Together, trans. John W. Doberstein (New York: Harper and Row, 1954), 91.

Have We Turned ‘Knowing God’s Will’ into a Christian Version of a Crystal Ball?

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Sometimes I think we’ve tried to forge a Christian version of a crystal ball. It’s called “knowing God’s will.” Afraid we might forfeit God’s blessings if we miss his will, we avidly pursue it, agonizing over decisions like what school to attend, whom to marry, what job to accept. Though these decisions are important, and though it is always good to seek God’s will, some of us are motivated more by fear than by a desire to glorify God. We want to be in control of the uncontrollable future, thinking perhaps we can assure a life of satisfaction and success.

But what if there is more than one way to do God’s perfect will? What if he is not always as concerned about specific decisions as we are, knowing as he does that he can achieve his purpose in a variety of ways? Furthermore, why do we sometimes feel so anxious about finding his will, as though God has decided to make it impossible to discover?

Jerry Sittser, the author of The Will of God as a Way of Life, points out that the conventional approach to finding God’s will, in which we think there is always only one perfect choice to make, betrays a faulty notion of God, implying that he is playing a celestial game of hide-and-seek:

“Raising my own children has changed my understanding of both God and the game of hide-and-seek. . . . I was better at hiding than my kids were. But I always gave them hints, like little squeaks or hoots, to help them find me. When they discovered my whereabouts, they would squeal with delight because they loved to find me. I never once wanted to hide so well that they would never find me, because the joy of the game came in being found, not in hiding.”1

Similarly, we can assume that God delights in revealing his will to us as we seek him.

The next time you are faced with a major decision, ask God to reveal his will. But don’t get tied up in knots over it. Just point your heart toward his purposes and rest in the assurance that he will provide the guidance you need.

  1. Jerry Sittser, The Will of God as a Way of Life (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2004), 25–26.

 

Developing a Slow Mouth

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In the course of their quest to live peaceably and simply, the Amish have developed many wise proverbs. This is one of my favorites:

“Swallowing words before you say them is so much better than having to eat them afterward.”

Were I to attempt writing a proverb of my own, it would go like this:

“If you desire more peace, let your ears be quick and your mouth be slow.”

Though I haven’t always lived by that bit of practical wisdom, I have learned to be careful about spouting off on political or religious topics, because doing so often subtracts from the peace rather than adding to it. Responding too quickly often means speaking carelessly, without giving enough thought to what others are saying or to how they might respond to your words.

The familiar phrase “hold your peace” provides a useful visual. When we “hold our peace,” we are maintaining our silence. Our decision to keep quiet unless and until it’s time to speak gives us the ability to stay peaceful, helping to maintain the peace around us. Exercising this kind of self-control can also increase our influence, because people tend to listen to calm voices rather than anxious or angry ones.

Peace is something precious, something to be guarded and protected. The next time you find yourself in a situation in which you are tempted to respond with rapid-fire words, try imagining yourself “holding your peace.” Do your best to think calmly, asking God for his wisdom to shape your response.

Regrets

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I have sometimes heard people say that they have no regrets. But I don’t believe them. Every life has its share of regrets arising from bad decisions, lost opportunities, mistakes, and sins. There are some things we should regret. In fact, regret can serve as a wise instructor, preventing us from making the same mistakes over and over.

But sometimes we get stuck in our regrets, unable to experience God’s peace because we cannot get free of them. What then? Charles Stanley tells the story of a young woman who felt called to become a missionary in Southeast Asia. Instead of pursuing her calling, she married a man who felt no such call. For the next twenty-five years, the woman was mired in her regrets. When she was forty-eight, she told her husband how she felt. A generous man, he encouraged her to undertake a short-term mission, promising to support her in it for up to twelve months.

But all of the woman’s efforts to forge an alliance with a missionary organization failed. Finally she decided to fly to Southeast Asia and look for a missionary who might welcome her help. After four months, she returned home, dejected and in ill health. A wise pastor told her the truth: “That boat sailed. God may have called you nearly thirty years ago to serve Him in Southeast Asia. What you need to ask yourself is this: ‘What is God calling me to do right now?’”1

If you have made decisions or done things that you regret, don’t let your regrets continue to block God’s peace. Instead, take each one to the Lord, asking for forgiveness. Then ask God what he wants you to do right now. Remember that he is both powerful and creative, still able to bring your life—even after many failings—into perfect alignment with his purposes.

  1. Charles Stanley, Finding Peace: God’s Promise of a Life Free from Regret, Anxiety, and Fear (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2003), 109.